Wilford Ong

Those who have my MSN know that Wilford Ong is indeed me.

Yes, I got myself a new English name. Some say that's a 'Christian name', but since i'm 0% christian, i don't like to call that as my christian name. It has been a while since i decided to use 'Wilford' as my new English name. Many asked, why 'Wilford'? and why a new English name?

Trust me, I used to think 'Wei Han' was adequate. I like my name, although it's rather common. There were so strangers thought I was another 'Wei Han' whom they familiar with. Anyway, i started to change my mind when i was having my internship in Accenture. Well, the first reason, i would say: peer pressure/influence. Almost 80% or more chinese (could be non-Christians) have English names. The second reason, it seems like my name does not have 'ease to remember' trait. Except chinese-educated colleagues/friends, others have great difficulty in remembering or calling my name. When I introduce myself as "Wei Han", Malays usually repeat my name as 'Rei Han' for unknown reasons. For non-chinese-educated chinese (so called the bananas), they have no trouble repeating my name, but they have no trouble in forgetting my name as well. For foreigners, they couldn't even have the ability of calling my name UNLESS they know the exact spelling of my name.

Triggered by those thoughts, I further convince myself to have a new English name due to the arguments below:

1. Teachers / lecturers call me 'Ong' 
2. Some friends call me 'Wei' (well, i really dont like that)
3. I can only accept a very close person to call me 'Han', else i will feel geli (disgusted). lol
4. Isnt it joyous to be able to name myself? 'Wei Han' given by parents; 'Wilford' given by me myself.

Okay, next question: Why Wilford?
Giving credit to my ex-roommate, Charles, who are so passionate in helping me to search for my new name. I personally like a name starts with 'W'. And we actually get a list of 'W' names from a website. I've shortlisted 5 names from that list and I asked opinions from someone, okay, well, my gf. And that's the one she chose (though i'm not really sure if she remembers that). Of course, i personally like the name Wilford for these reasons:

1. It feels mature, something that i want myself to have. 
2. It doesn't sound bad. It looks nice (in words) to me. 
3. Well, some people might not like the '...ford' part. If so, you can just break it up and call me Wil or Will, eitherway.
4. 'Wil....' part represents Will, another thing that i want myself to have. A strong will is the key to success, for me. It seems like my will is much weaker than my ability/potential.

Yeah, i know. My friends will be shocked to see this 'stranger' name appear in their instant messenger. I expect that to happen. My friends will say 'Wilford' sounds weird or not suitable to me. I expect that to happen too. Some friends will tease and laugh at it. As expected either. All it requires is time to accept. If my name was Woon Ping, and i change my name to Wei Han. I'm sure you all will feel awkward too. It takes time for 'the name to really be mine', I believe.

Anyway, if you still feel totally absurd to call me Wilford. No problem. I like 'Wei Han' a lot, and you are free to call me Wei Han if you want. Ihe new name is meant for my new friends and mostly colleagues in the future. Those who have familiar with Wei Han, just stick with Wei Han will do. Coz, frankly, sometimes i feel weird when my old friends call me Wilford too. lol.        

Different People Receive Different Treatment

Let's talk about being two-or-more faces today. I believe most of you are the same, you treat each individual differently based on his/her gender, age, position, closeness and etc. A simple example, let's compare the way you treat your teacher, your nephew, your parents, your lover, a stranger and an old friend. All receive different treatment right? That's what i mean. (although there's a possiblity you treat all the same, if that's the case, you are weirdo! Imagine you talk to your parents, "Hey parents, let's hang out" or to your nephew, "Excuse me, may i know the reason you skip the class?")

The examples i mentioned just now was a bit general. In fact, between friends, I still treat them differently based on closeness, gender, age, position and their personality. For example, towards some friends, i do not crap in front of them. I could be very gentleman in front of a person and very 'jin gak' (evil) to others. And sometimes, i will be extremely cold towards a person and i dont even know why.

I personally think the multiple behavior/treatment characteristic is okay although some people say i'm fake. But who cares, in order to be good in socializing, you gotta 'customized' urself (treatment) to different people. Don't they learn marketing? We gotta customize the product/service to suit each customer needs. lol. However, there is this one particular problem when having multi-faced. I seriously do not know how to handle, when there are two different 'treatment' groups i have to face at the same time. I face difficulties in choosing which treatment to use or how to 'combine' and find the average of the two different treatments in order to face the 2 different 'treatment' groups. By the way, do you understand what i mean? It seems like my explanation is not really easy to understand. Okay, let me give an example for you. Let's say the way i treat my parents is being less talkative and the way i treat my old friends is i always crap. Imagine, in an occasion, my parent fetch me and my friends to a place (bus station maybe). Then, in the car, i dunno how should i face the situation.. Remain less talkative or keep crapping? Usually in such situation, i will keep quiet, because i do not know how should i handle the situation. Same to this occasion, most of u know that i crap a lot. But sometimes, when you introduce me some new friends, i tend to talk less and become a bit quiet because you and 'new friends' are belong to two different treatment groups. lol. understand what i meant?

Sometimes, i wonder should i reduce the level of 'customization' so that each treatment is different but not so much different. :-/  This will make me easier to handle two different treatment groups. However, the customization level will decrease, which means it will be less effective in dealing with people. A bit dilemma though. And sometimes I also lost my self... as in i dunno what's my real personality. Because i'm friendly and unfriendly, polite and impolite, considerate and inconsiderate towards different people. And i can't say that i'm friendly in a general sense, because i'm only friendly to specific people. I could be very cold to those who i don't intend to mix with. In other words, i do not have a 'major' one side personality that defines me. Sometimes, i try to play some personality tests which everyone says it's accurate. Just to be curious, after i checked my result of the personality that i find it accurate, i will check other personality results of the same personality test too. And usually, i find many many other results are accurate too (coz i have multiple personalities).

Anyway, maybe you didnt think too much. Probably you are similar to me too, just that u didnt realize you have multiple face/personality. ;)

My Holiday

Hi all,

Long time no c. I know you all surely miss my blog a lot. Thanks for supporting and sorry for keep you waiting for my new post. (pretending to be a very popular blogger)

The title of this post is "My Holiday". What a boring post. I believe most of you have written some sort of similar post regarding to your holiday or semester breaks (some more than once). But as usual, if you like my writing style, you shouldn't feel bored reading it. And in fact, if you dislike the way i write my blog, you wouldnt even read this post. So, let's assume those who have read 'THIS' sentence love my blog. lol

Sorry to disappoint you, actually this post wouldnt be very interesting though. I just want to describe how short is my holiday and how many activities i have to do. Too much activities too limited time. (Do i sound like a very busy person?) I'm not busy by the way, to be specifically i'm not busy doing work. But i'm pretty occupied with things i want to do.

I'm not sure if you are aware of my interest. This is how i use my free time:

1. Online/Chatting
2. Play PC games
3. Read Novels
4. Watch drama/anime 
5. Outing  

 The above are the major activities that might take me 3-6 hours per day just to implement it. And almost all of them will make me addicted and as a result, i will become crazy (as in forget to eat and sleep, and totally ignore everyone and everything else).

Err... Suddenly... i forget what's my purpose of writing this post. LOL. so that's the end for this post.. will write a more meaningful post next time. Stay tuned. haha.